5 Must Have Phone Cases From IDEALOFSWEDEN (Brand Partnership)

Have you ever heard of iDealofSweden?

iDeal of Sweden is a Swedish designed fashion cases, phone wallets and accessories.

All of their products are also compatible with each other. We call this the “iDeal Concept” which means that you can mix and match fashion cases & mobile wallets, depending on the mood to any situation or occasion (iDealofSweden, 2017).

Their designs are very stylish, making them very famous among the millennials generation! HERE I list must have phone cases from iDealofSweden!

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#1 GOLDEN SAND MARBLE

29.99 GBP

  • Made from strong but flexible plastic
  • Microfiber lining to prevent scratches
  • Compatible with IDEAL OF SWEDENs QI chargers
  • Part of Accessories of Attraction and magnetically compatible with our wallets and mounts
  • Swedish design, always on trend
  • Gold details to add a luxurious feel
  • Perfectly fits your phone to provide protection and a great look

Compatible with: iPhone 11

SKU: IDFCGM19-I1961-164

Source: idealofsweden.co.uk

#2 ZEBRA ECLIPSE

44.99 GBP

  • Gold-tone hardware detailing around the camera.
  • High quality microfiber lining on the inside.
  • Gold-tone embossed logo.
  • Accessories of Attraction: This design is part of our magnetically compatible product range and is compatible with our Wallets, Clutches Magnetic Card Holders and Phone – – Holder designs.

Compatible with our wireless QI-Chargers.
Compatible with: iPhone XR/iPhone 11

SKU: IDACAW20-1961-247

Source: idealofsweden.co.uk

#3 CLOUDY PINK

44.99 GBP

  • Gold-tone hardware detailing around the camera
  • High quality microfiber lining on the inside

Compatible with our Magnetic Card Holders & Clutches
Compatible with: iPhone XRiPhone 11

SKU: IDACSS20-I1961-213

Source: idealofsweden.co.uk

#4 GOLDEN PLUM

29.99 GBP

  • Printed design made from strong but flexible plastic.
  • Microfiber lining to prevent scratches.
  • Gold-tone embossed logo.
  • Designed to perfectly fits your phone and provide protection.
  • Accessories of Attraction: This design is part of our magnetically compatible product range.
  • and is compatible with our Wallets, Clutches Magnetic Card Holders and Mount designs.


Compatible with our wireless QI-Chargers.
Compatible with: iPhone XRiPhone 11


SKU: IDFCAW20-1961-232

Source: idealofsweden.co.uk

#5 GOLDEN SMOKE MARBLE

29.99 GBP

  • Made from strong but flexible plastic
  • Microfiber lining to prevent scratches
  • Compatible with IDEAL OF SWEDEN QI charger
  • Part of Accessories of Attraction and magnetically
  • Compatible with our wallets and mounts
  • Swedish design, always on trend
  • Gold details to add a luxurious feel
  • Perfectly fits your phone to provide protection and a great look


Compatible with: iPhone XR/iPhone 11
SKU: IDFCSS20-I1961-191

Source: idealofsweden.co.uk

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Most Underrated Places to Travel in Asia

“Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all”

– Helen Keller –

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Many people love to travel to Asia because of the culture, the food, the nice beaches, the lovely weather, and most importantly, the cost. Traveling in Asia is tend to be cheap in comparison with other parts of the world — and with the low cost, people get satisfaction from the food, the weather, and many more. No surprise that in the past few years, Asia has been the main destination for many people to travel, especially for millennials. Places like Phuket, Bali, Seoul, Singapore, Hong Kong, — and many more — has become the main destination to travel to Asia. As of this, prices in these places have raised and become very mainstream. But did you know that there are many other beautiful places in Asia that worth visiting with even lower cost? In this post, I’m going to share the most underrated places to travel in Asia!


Sri Lanka


The most underrated places to travel in Asia — in my opinion — is Sri Lanka! This country is very beautiful and the people are genuinely nice. If you don’t know where Sri Lanka is, it’s an island located in the Indian Ocean. As you can imagine, the beaches are very nice — and clean! Because there are not that many tourists, yet, the beaches are very clean, so you can actually enjoy a proper beach. The weather is lovely, and the food is nice. The natural beauty of Sri Lanka is on the top of the list. If you like nature, then you should definitely visit Sri Lanka. Sri Lanka is good for people that want to get away from the city life for a while. The natural landscape in Sri Lanka is very refreshing. The best part is, it’s very cheap to travel to Sri Lanka. You’re most likely spend less than $40 a day.

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Cambodia


Another underestimated places to travel in Asia is Cambodia. Cambodia is a country in South East Asia, to be precise, it’s located next to Thailand. Again, the beaches in Cambodia is very clean. If you like History, you should visit Cambodia, because this country is rich in history. There are many beautiful temples in Cambodia, that surely worth visiting! Angkor Wat (one of the temples in Cambodia) is protected under the UNESCO World Heritage Site. Moreover, the living cost in Cambodia is very cheap. Accommodation could cost as cheap as $4, and if you like a luxury lifestyle, you can get a luxury apartment for around $30! It’s very cheap compared to other South-East Asian countries like Thailand, Singapore, Indonesia, Malaysia, etc. So I would recommend visiting Cambodia because honestly, you’ve got nothing to lose!

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Myanmar


Myanmar is another country located in South East Asia. Just like Cambodia, Myanmar is located next to Thailand, but on the north side of Thailand. If you like learning and experiencing a new culture, you should go to Myanmar. The culture is authentic and original, it has not been contaminated by other culture (if you know what I mean). Moreover, the country has lots of delicious street food, stunning beaches and remarkable pagodas. If you’re a digital nomad, there are some nice working spaces that included WiFi. The budget to travel Myanmar is around $60 a day, so honestly, it is worth visiting!

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5 Books that Changed my Life as Millennials

‘Books are a uniquely portable magic’

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People always say that the more books you read the more educated you become. I happen to believe that the statement is true. Despite this, I always find it difficult to make time to read books. It feels like there is always something else I need to do before opening a book and let alone finishing it. But 3 years ago, I started to fell in love with self-help book. For some reason, when I read self-help book, I can actually make time for it. This past 3 years I have read about 30 self-help books, and from there I’m going to share the top 5 books that changed my life as millennials.


Light is the New Black

‘Light is the New Black’ is the first self-help book that I read. I remember when I first read it 3 years ago, I was not in a very good place. I was confused with my life, and at that time, things that I thought would work out, didn’t work out the way I expected it. I felt like I was attached to many things that didn’t serve me. I was forcing myself too hard to do things that deep down I knew was not right. This book came to me at the right time, because basically that was what the book about. The book reminds me that I need to let go of ‘attachment’ and ‘surrender’ to the universe (or whatever things you believe in, like: the source/the god, etc). There are things beyond our control, that sometimes, we need to let go, especially things that no longer serve us. If things are meant to be, we do not need to force it. The book also reminds me what my ‘true call’ is, how to answer my calling and stop ignoring it. Because deep down, we all know what our calling is, we just tend to ignore it as so often, our calling seems impossible to reach. Light is the New Black reminds us that listening to our calling will lead us to our happiest life.


You are a Badass

The second book that changed my life is ‘You are a Badass’. If you haven’t read this book, you must read it now. This book is very convenience to carry around because of the size of the book, and that’s a massive plus point for me. But that’s not why this book changed my life. The writer, Jen Sincero, she is very empowering. When she puts things to word, things that I thought was complicated, become very simple. Again, I was not in the right place when I read this book. It was summer 2018, and I was not happy at all, to the point that summer feels like a depressing time. But this book in a way, managed to save my mindset. If ‘Light is the New Black’ helped me to let go of attachment and surrender, ‘You are a Badass’ reminds me that I can, and should, take control of my life.


The Power of Now

I remember I read this book when I first move to Newcastle 2 years ago. After getting through that ‘depressed’ summer time, I moved to Newcastle to start a new life. I was already in the right mindset but still healing. Again, this book came to me at the right time. From feeling depressed, I started to feel anxious because I was excited to start the new chapter and want everything to work out best. This book reminds me to focus on the present moment, because it’s all we have. Thinking too much about the future won’t do anything, because it has not happened yet. This book is good for an over-thinker, because it helps us to understand that there is nothing to worry about. The future has not happened yet, and the past has already happened — and there is nothing we can do about both situation. The only thing that we have control is the present moment, which is why the book is called ‘The Power of Now’. We will be surprised how our life will change when we started to live in the present moment.


Big Magic

‘Big Magic’ is a great book if you are looking for inspiration/a push to do something you are inspired to do, but too afraid to do. This book, again, is very empowering. I would say I like Elizabeth Gilbert, because of her ‘Eat Pray Love’, of course — who doesn’t? The way she writes is just very inspiring. I read ‘Big Magic’ when I was flying for 16 hours (I know right, very long flight). The book reminds me that we should not give up when we get rejections, because every successful human being have had rejections in their life. Let’s say we want to write, but we are too afraid to start because we do not want to get rejections, or let’s say we have written everything, and sent it to 100 publishers and get rejections over and over again. Then, we started to feel like a failure. ‘Big Magic’ reminds us that there is a power in what we create and what we aspire to be. Just because it has not reached what we dream of, does not mean that it won’t. Even though we get rejected 1000 times, there is still magic in what we create. And because of that, eventually, what we create will manifest itself beyond our imagination.


The Subtle Art of not Giving a F*ck

Another book that changed my life is, of course, last but not least, ‘The Subtle Art of not Giving a Fck’ — this books is just brilliant. It sold out everywhere, and honestly I have not met anyone that have not heard the book, and when they say they have not read it, I always wonder, what are you waiting for? Ironically, I read this book in another long flight (yeah another 16 hours flight!). The book reminds us that sometimes, we think too much or care too much about things that have so little impact, or even not at all, in our life.


This is another great book for someone who tends to over-think things, because it teaches us to, just like the title, to not give a f*ck. There was one chapter on his book about death, the writer talks about his friend that suddenly died jumping out of a cliff (or a river I don’t really remember), but what I remember he says ‘… and then we all die’. This just stuck with my head over the years, because every time I started to think too much or worried what other things about me — it reminds me to stop worrying and just enjoy what we have because nothing last forever right? Honestly, this book makes me careless (in a good way), not caring about what other things and started to do whatever I like. It helps me to become my self and live my life to the fullest. I mean in the end, we all will die. So right now, might as well just enjoy what we have, stop worrying, and start living our life to the fullest.

Life Crisis as Millennials

“The grass is always greener on the other side”

Getting through life as millennials is not easy. Confused on what do we want to do in life, battling whether to gamble in trying to earn money online or settling for a minimum wage job, baffling whether to fight for your childhood — unrealistic — dream or just following ordinary path as an adult. If that is not conflicted enough for you, let me give you the last one — the conflict that every millennials in the 21st century face — whether to save money to buy a house or to move to another country and start a new life.

Classified as Generation Y — we are the Generation that face transition from Generation X to Generation Z. Meaning that we are in the front line of the 4th industrial revolution, where technology is changing the way we live our life. This, though seems very cool, it’s hard for us as millennials to get through mid-crisis, and here is why: too many options and not many responsibilities (in comparison with Generation X). I know you will think “wait a minute, there are many responsibilities and not too many options”, well let me tell you, you’re wrong. Our generations have so many options to live our life, and we are not obliged to things that our previous generations does. Now, you can argue with me on this but it would be a long discussion for another time. But if you think about it, what exactly is our responsibility as Generation Y, other than to earn money? Can you think of any? I don’t think so. The only responsibility we have is to earn money — and this what often be the foundation of our millennials life crisis.

Let’s say if money is not in the way, then you either feel depressed — or not sure what is the purpose of your life. You started to doubt everything you do and things you have done this past few years and think “what the f*ck am I doing with my life?”. You question your job, your career prospect, and although you make enough money for your living, sooner or later, if not happen yet, you will started to wonder “is this the life I want to live?”. Have you ever wondered why more than ever our generations have more mental health issues, and why do we questions all of this? If the one I said earlier does not come to your mind then let me remind you, it’s because we have too many options and less responsibilities.

The way Generation Y lives their life is very vary. The way we earn money is no longer the same like it used to be. 9–5 jobs used to be a must have item after you graduate from college. Buying a house in your 30s used to be a cool thing. But now in this generation, traveling around the world will be much cooler than buying a house, people no longer attracted to 9–5 jobs as there are more options to earn money in a less boring way. On top of that, we are battling with ideology, challenging status quo, no longer accept things that used to be acceptable. All of this — unconsciously — is making us even more confused, conflicted, and not having a foundation on what we should believe, perceive, and achieve from our lives.

Though, despite all of this, Generation Y is very lucky. Having more options does not mean that we need to do it all at once. We can consider all options, and maybe test the water for a while and see how each of the options goes for us, but we do not need to be good in everything or do everything that interests us all at once. We need to always remember that “the grass is always greener on the other side”. Whatever we do, we will always face difficulty, doubt, confusion, then makes us question our life and think that maybe, just maybe, it would be better if we do other things. Having more options can be dangerous if we just jump from one thing to another without finishing what we have started. But if we are careful, taking different options or paths of life will lead us to a brightly coloured life.

I made Tik Tok for fun and got 250,000 views

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So the lockdown begins, and suddenly everyone has nothing to do. Of course, unless you are a frontline worker, you have to go to work and save lives, which is very much appreciated by everyone. Your hard work has saved so many lives, and for that, I would like to pay tribute and thank you as much as I can. But for the rest of us, we just have to stay at home, with literally nothing to do. For some reason, Tik Tok suddenly came into everyone’s phone. For just one second, everyone suddenly became a Tik Tokers.

I downloaded Tik Tok last year but never posted anything. I barely check the app, maybe just once in a while, like when I can’t sleep at night. But since the lockdown begins, which was in March (in the UK), I had too much free time that I decided to constantly check the app. I noticed that many people were on Tik Tok, more than before. The videos that were uploaded also very much relatable with my life. Stay at home with nothing to do. People have been making memes about the whole situation, and I find it quite entertaining. It wasn’t just the memes though, people were also sharing their story, which makes me feel like we’re in this together, that I’m not alone.

With that, I started to think maybe I should upload something too. I mean, after all, I’m a social media girl. But I waited for a few weeks. It wasn’t until mid-April that I uploaded my first video. I made a ‘Cannibal’ dance, which was very famous back then. The video was doing okay, I didn’t get many likes or followers, which I expected. I knew it would be hard to suddenly become famous on a new social media platform that I have just started. Besides, I wasn’t putting much effort into that video. I just did it for fun.

I need to highlight here that I did not follow anyone, still has not followed anyone on Tik Tok. I have not told anyone that knows me in real life my Tik Tok username. Now, they know that I have Tik Tok, and I shared some of the videos on my Instagram, but I hide my username. Unless they actually stalk me, my friends and family or my Instagram followers, in general, won’t find my account. I did it on purpose because I want to see it myself if I can do well on Tik Tok only based on my creativity. I want to see if people (strangers) like my videos, and if they actually like the content I created. It was just my curiosity that made me start uploading videos on Tik Tok.

After uploading my first videos, I uploaded several other videos after that. I realized that I actually enjoyed it more than I thought I would. Tik Tok feels like half YouTube and half Instagram, which is what I have been looking for. I love Instagram but sometimes I want to make and edit videos, but I find YouTube takes a lot of hard work and commitment, as filming and editing videos for YouTube takes literally 5 years! (Okay it’s not 5 years, but it takes a long time, you know what I mean).

Because I enjoyed making Tik Tok, I started to think maybe I could put a bit more effort, and film somewhere with good lighting. I like outdoor scenery so whenever I go for a walk (which is allowed once a day), I record for 15 seconds. I’m lucky that I live in the city centre, so there was quite a lot of nice things to record while I’m going out for a walk. So I posted some of those. I get more views than I expected, but it wasn’t a lot, it was just between 500–1000 views. But still, I wasn’t looking for views, I just did it because I enjoyed it, and considering that those 500–1000 people that see my videos are strangers, I was actually impressed by it. I thought, hmm, maybe I can do something more.

Everything changed when I posted my 13th posts. I made a video about why I choose to move to the UK instead of the US. It was not shady or anything, I was truly just sharing my experienced. I love the US, and I studied abroad there when I was 17, however, at the age of 18 I decided to move to the UK. And I thought, maybe I could just share my experience. I was also inspired by someone who shared their experience of why they decided to move to Germany instead of the US. Because I have a similar experience, with the UK in my case, I decided to make the video. This time, I tried to put more effort into using a better camera and lighting. After I record the video, I edit it the next day. I honestly wasn’t expecting anything, I just thought it would be fun to make one like this …

and BOOM! in only 15 minutes after I posted it, it reached 3,000 views. I was like … how?? Suddenly I became nervous, I put my phone away and checked it again after 45 minutes, it went to 10,000 views, and I was like … wait, what?? Then I left my phone and checked it again after 2 hours, it was almost 50,000 views, … OMG! I was shocked, and suddenly the rest of my videos views went up, my followers grow and my likes grow. That video that I uploaded a month ago now has more than 100,000 views. This might not look a lot for famous people, but for an ordinary girl like me, that just testing the water and doing it for fun, it was a lot.

I was thinking to myself, this is crazy. Now I understand how people can suddenly become famous. I mean I have 20k followers on Instagram, but that is different, I work years and years for that. It wasn’t a one-night famous thing. But with that videos, it kinda shook me. I enjoyed making Tik Tok anyway so I decided to make more. I made one sharing my experience living in the UK, titled ‘Stages of Living in the UK’ (which was a joke by the way), but that one reached over 50,000 views. The comments on that video were very entertaining, it was nice to see people different views on things, and nice to see that some people experience what I experienced. Then, I make another joke videos about the weather in the UK, and that reached over 100,000 views. I honestly can’t believe it, I have over 250,000 views in total, in only what, a month? I don’t know about you, but that’s insane to me.

Not all my videos went viral, some only have a couple of thousands of views, some even only have a couple of hundreds of views. But those that went viral, I still can’t believe it. I was literally only been on Tik Tok properly for a month. I guess for all the videos that went viral, I was most excited to see people’s comments and thoughts on the thing I posted, to see their participation in the video, to see that they actually watched it. How the share their experiences, their views, and opinions on some of the topics I mentioned. Of course, some of the comments are not very nice, but that’s just the cost you have to pay if your videos suddenly went viral. You just have to learn that,first, not everyone gets your joke, and second, everyone has a different opinion on things, and we should let them embrace it. After all, that’s the beauty of social media.

I tried to make this as short as possible, so I apologize if this ends up being a long post. But I just want to share my story, and maybe you experience the same thing, or maybe you just curious about Tik Tok. I guess the moral of the story is that you never know what is going to happen. Sometimes you just test the water on something, and it turns out to be great. Of course, Tik Tok is just for fun, and it’s one of those things that I enjoy doing. But the fact that I was just testing the water and did not expect anything turns out to be something unexpected just surprised me. I realized that life is full of surprises, and that’s the beauty of life.

“Sometimes you just test the water on something, and it turns out to be great.”

Living in the UK: Expectation vs Reality

For a long time, I had a dream to travel the world and live in different countries. Funny enough, the UK was never on my list of countries ‘to live’, but here I am, sitting in front of my laptop in the North East of England. I have lived in the UK since 2015, so yeah it has been a while. Despite not being on my list of countries ‘to live’, right before I moved to this country, I had a long list of expectations on what it’s like to live in the country where the crown still reign — I know it doesn’t really have constitutional power anymore, but it still exists, and if you learn more about the law and politics (in which I graduated in) in this country, the crown actually has absolute power on certain occasions — Anyway back to the story, I was a teenager back then, so I kinda had this idea in my head that I was going to find a prince charming in the white horse with a strong posh British accent that will introduce me to the royal family. Well I guess, no more prince is charming in the white horse, this is a modern fairytale.

1. People drink Tea

I guess the first thing that I expect was that everyone drinks tea, maybe all day, or at least in the morning and the afternoon. Don’t blame me for this expectation because this is what every movie shows, British people love to drink tea. Especially ‘afternoon tea’. Well, I happen to find out that I drink more tea than most British people I know. Maybe because I am quite addicted to tea, but I drink decaf anyway now so it should be alright. But I only drink about three glasses of tea a day, and still, most people in this country don’t even drink tea once a day. My best friend, from Newcastle, barely drink tea at all. My boyfriend, from Durham, live in London, drink two cups of coffees every day, not tea. Everyone I know at work drinks coffee every morning, not tea. I was literally the only person in my team who drinks tea. I guess people in this country drink more coffee than tea, so I guess my expectation about tea has been proven not to be accurate.

2. “British people are polite, even when they drunk”

This is just not true. I mean, British people are polite, but not when they are drunk. If you have seen the nightlife in the UK, it is as bad as anywhere else in the world. People drunk, shouting at each other, pick a fight, smoking, throwing things at each other, argh all of that stuff, it happens in this country. I’m not sure why but before I came here, I had this expectation that the nightlife won’t be that bad or at least people will still behave when they drunk. I guess it’s because everyone always says that British people are polite and always know how to behave, which I believe it’s true to some extent, but not when they drunk. What I can’t believe is that, until now, people that have never lived in this country, still think that the nightlife in this country somehow is very ‘organized’. They kinda have this belief that people in this country are too polite to shout at each other or to pick a fight. Well, let me tell you this, I have seen the worst behavior of drunk people in this country. If you don’t believe me, come see it yourself, but don’t tell me I didn’t warn you, I even wish I never have seen what I saw.

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3. Everyone is wealthy

You know, people always expect that the UK is one of the most developed countries in the world, that everyone here is rich. I used to think like that too, but with regret, I have to say that this is not true at all. Many people in this country are rich, but many are not. Of course, this is normal, every country has the rich and the poor. And I can confirm that the gap between the rich and the poor is not huge, which is a good thing, but that does not mean that there aren’t any poor people in this country or even homeless.

When I was in uni, I used to work part-time in retail. That’s when I opened my eyes that not everyone is this country is wealthy enough. Some people have to rely on 12 hours a week job to provide their living, which nothing is wrong with it, but one of my friends told me explicitly that he doesn’t earn enough money to provide a living for day to day life. Even worst, if you live in a big city like London or Manchester, you can see there are so many homeless. I have lived in different parts of the country, talk to people from different backgrounds, and I can see that many are struggling to earn enough money, just like everyone else in the world. I guess what I’m trying to say is, the newspaper, media, TV, always show all of this posh wealthy British people with fancy cars, mansions, castles, horses, the queen, and the royal family — that somehow people developed the idea in their head that the UK is such a wealthy country. Which I don’t dispute, the UK is a wealthy country, but there are things behind the scene that people don’t see. There are minors in this country that suffers as much as many other people in other parts of the world. The part of the country that the media never show. 

4. British accents

I noticed after writing the last part it was quite a heavy topic, so this one I make it a bit light, yeah about accents. Many people that never lived here always find British accents to be appealing, or some people will say that they love British accents. So here is my story, I was a huge fan of One Direction, I guess that was the main reason why I moved to the UK in the first place. So maybe I was a little obsessed with accents, although my favorite was Niall and he is Irish though. But anyway, when I first came here I still believed that the accents were appealing, to the point that I really wanted to have the accents. However, after living in different parts of the country, I realized that there are different accents in this country. Some accents, I could confirm is appealing, mostly southern accents though. But some parts of the country have such accents, that I don’t think people will find it sexy or even appealing. I would not mention which accents I’m talking about cause I think it would be quite rude, but some accents, you won’t believe that these people are British. I guess, just like other countries, some people have more appealing accents than the other. The problem is that TV shows and movies have never shown different parts of the country accents. I honestly think those movies and shows have only used London accents, which is only one out of 48 counties in the UK.

Surprisingly enough I honestly enjoy writing this. Disclaimer though, don’t get me wrong, I love the UK and I’m very grateful to have a chance to live in such a beautiful country. I’m just saying some expectations do not meet the reality, which is almost the case for every situation. If you have never been to the UK or never lived here, I think you should give it a try. It is a great country, and a nice one to live (despite the weather). So I would recommend visiting or maybe even living in the UK, just don’t have too many expectations, and of course, be prepared for the weather!

Is it too naive to be a dreamer?

“Anything is possible”

Is anything really possible?


The lost girl

I used to be such a dreamer. I believed in everything. Call it, magic, miracle, prince charming in a white horse, happily ever after, love at first sight, anything else you name it. All the positive things in life, I saw it, I believed in it, and for some reason I was convinced that I would be happy forever. I was literally a dreamer in every way. But then I grew up, become an adult, and all of the things I used to believe in just faded away.

I became this boring adult that I used to tell myself that I will never be. It feels like I’m trapped in this ‘adult’ life where I need to do certain things to fulfilled the definition of a responsible adult. Get a job, work, pay bills, pay rent, pay taxes, be responsible. In translation, you can read it as ‘don’t follow your dreams, it’s too risky, you’ll fail and end up wasting your time, and you can’t waste time because if you do, you can’t pay your bills or your taxes, and you’ll be perceived as an un-responsible adult’. Tragic right. I grew up looking at this adults and kept telling myself that I won’t be like them, & I ended up being just like them.

Not to mention that the happily ever after no longer exists. Or it never existed in the first place. I mean when I was a kid I love fairytales stories, I believed in it. But I guess that fairytales stories are missing lots of details. Such as, you can’t marry someone you just met, or your fairy god mother can’t save you in the middle of the night when you cry, or mouses don’t actually talk, or sleeping curse can’t be broken with a kiss, or magic carpet doesn’t really exists, we don’t even know if mermaid ever existed. See what I mean? All of it was just imaginations. A good one though. I remember how happy I was having all of that spirit. I remember how much I believed in it. I believed in the possibility of the impossible. & that of course lasts until I became this boring sad grumpy person that I don’t even recognise anymore.

The worst part is, I didn’t even realise that I have changed, completely change. My little me would be upset to see me right now. Not because I have a bad life, because I don’t. My life, in paper, is great. But on the inside, I’m not. I doubt myself a lot, I lost faith in myself, I don’t believe in the possibility of the impossible, worst of all, I don’t believe in myself anymore. I also lost faith in people, in life, in things. I became very unemotional. My logic came first in everything. It’s almost like I don’t have a heart anymore. I know it sounds very depressing but I’m not depressed (at least I don’t think I am). I just feel like I lost that little girl within me. That strong spirits I used to have. I was never afraid to take risks, I was always the first person to say ‘I can do it, and I will!’, I was always have faith in me, in people, in fairytales. It’s like I almost forgot how it feels like to be that girl, it feels like she has gone, for a very long time, and maybe forever.


Me the ordinary

Recently I’ve been thinking to myself, why do I became like this. Maybe I just grew up and believing in all those things I used to believe in is just too childish. But is it though? I still see many people living their dream life, people that believe in magic, in the possibility of the impossible. I see this people and I recognise them, of course I do, because it was me, it was me years ago, it was that lost girl I’ve been trying to find, that I don’t even know if I could ever find her again or not. Here is the thing, all of this people that I mentioned are living their dream life, they are not the people I see in everyday life. These are people I see online, through social media, tv, websites, etc. I see them and I think they’re living such an amazing life, they seem very happy, they know what they’re doing with their life, and they’re sure of their path of life. But I don’t see them in everyday life, so they seem very distant from me. It feels like there is a barricade in between ‘these people that living their amazing life’ and ‘me’. Me the ordinary.

In case you haven’t noticed, I’m supposed to be an influencer. But how can I still be an influencer when I can’t even influence myself to believe in me? I started to be an influencer in a young age, when I still believed in all of this things. That lost girl was the influencer, not me, not the person that I am today. I’ve been avoiding my website, my blog, my social media, because I’m scared. I’m scared with the fact that I have changed to become the person that doesn’t fit with the definition of an influencer anymore. & that’s sad because I remember how much I was very passionate about it, how much lights I had within me, how much positivity I had, and how optimist I was. Now, I can’t even stop doubting myself.

It’s not like I’m very upset or anything like that cause I’m not. I’m actually good, and content with my life. But I guess that what makes me feel ordinary in a way that I don’t really feel like I’m living. I live a life but I don’t feel alive. & when I want to try to feel alive again, my ordinary me would remain me how dangerous it is to risks everything I have to only make me ‘feel alive’. It sounds weird saying it but I guess that’s the best way to explain it. It’s like I no longer take risks to feel alive, because, I guess because I don’t believe in it anymore, or because I’m scared to take the risks. The risks, the uncertainty, the possibility of facing unbearable pain, the waste of time, the waste of energy, the waste of money, the way I would be perceived in the society, and most of all, scared to fail, the fear of failure. All of these are the costs I need to pay in order to feel alive, and somehow, the ordinary me either can’t or don’t want to pay for it, I can’t really figure it out.


So, is it too naive to be a dreamer, to have faith, to believe in magic?

I really would like to say it is not too naive to be a dreamer, to have faith, or to believe in magic. & I guess it’s not about being too naive or not, because nothing is wrong with being too naive. I truly want to be that person again, the girl that believe in everything. & I’m saying this because I want everyone to believe in it. It’s the only way that you could truly thrive to be the best version of you, to be who you are, to be who you are meant to be. You would never find your life purpose if you’re not willing to take the risks, if you’re not willing to be naive and believe in magic, and not afraid or feel a shame to be a dreamer. It is our ego that often gets in a way of our happiness. Our ego that thinks we are too mature to be a dreamer, too proud to have faith, too arrogant to believe in magic. Our ego makes us think we can do everything by ourselves, and when things go wrong, our ego blames us, makes us feel trapped, and makes us believe that we are a failure, that we are not good enough, makes us doubt ourselves. & makes us too proud to ask for help, too proud to believe in the possibility of the impossible. Because our ego creates this pendulum in our head that we have to be this certain figure, that we have to impress the society by being the figure they would like us to be. & in many cases, this figure is very much in contradicted with who we truly are, with who we want to be, with our dreams. & we always listen to our ego because it’s safe, it’s easier, and it’s not difficult to stay with what already written. But it’s only by taking risks, challenging the status quo, doing the impossible, writing the unwritten path, that we can only truly live, that we can truly be the best version of ourselves, and that we can truly feel the happiest we could ever be. So it doesn’t matter whether it is too naive to be a dreamer or not, because the only thing that cares whether or not it’s naive is our ego, what matter is that only by being a dreamer that we could truly live our lives to the fullest.


But it’s only by taking risks, challenging the status quo, doing the impossible, writing the unwritten path, that we can only truly live, that we can only thrive to be the best version of ourselves


Little note you guys, I’m writing this on Friday night at 2.00 am in the morning so I apologies if some of the things I said doesn’t really make sense. Thank you for reading this blog post, for checking the website, & for being interested in this topic.

We are exactly where we are supposed to be

… because you are exactly where you are supposed to be

You know when people ask, if you can do anything or go wherever you want, what or where would that be? Often we stare for a while, think and picture our life in the way we want it to be. We said things like, “I want to travel the world”, “I want to be a lawyer”, “I want to build my own company”, “I want to live in New York”, “I want to see the Northern Lights”, “I want to climb the highest mountain in the world” (whatever that is). We picture it in our head, then we came to reality and be like “One day”, or “But you know, it was just dreams”.

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In a very unusual case, we say things like “Well, I have done all I want to do, and I have been all where I want to be, I don’t mind doing other exciting things in the future, or go wherever it takes me, but right now, I’m enjoying life as it is, because I am where I am supposed to be.”

It’s about the journey …

This blog post will probably be the shortest one I have ever posted, but I just want to put it out there. For the longest time, I heard people keep asking one another, wondering things that they want to do in the future, things they want to have, places they want to be. People talk talk talk about things that are not in front of them. It’s like our brain is in constant thinking of “what next?”. Especially if you are a very ambitious person. One of those people who know exactly what type of life you want to have and where you want to be.

The thing is, once you get it all, you started to feel confused. “Oh no, what’s next?”. Then you keep exploring things, opening options, trying to figure it out on what to do next. You are in constant move. You want to do big things. Even when you have done big things, you still want more of big things. It’s like, an ever ending circle. There is no end. You keep pushing yourself.

Until you feel like it’s too much, and you need to take a step back. However, when you take a step back, people are just always there. They talk talk talk and talk. Ask you all of this random things, questions like, “so, what are you gonna do after this?” or “what’s your plan for the future?”. Then your anxiety came back, you started to feel anxious again about the future. You search, explore, try to find options. It goes on and on. Once you figured it out, you go to the next step, and once you are in the next step, you think about what is the next step after the next step (if that makes sense).

Enjoy life while it lasts

The thing is, life is very unpredictable. We can die tomorrow and all of this won’t even matter. See? That’s the thing, life is what happening right now, when we’re busy making other plans. People need to stop thinking about “what’s next?” and just enjoying the present moment. Think about it for a second, all the stuff you keep thinking you want to do won’t even matter if the world end tomorrow. This might be very cheesy or whatever you want to call it, but that is the fact. I read the famous book “The Subtle Art of not Giving a F*ck”, I’m sure many of you have read his book, he is such a brilliant author, and one chapter that really gets to me was when he talked about the tragedy of his friend. The chapter when he talked about death. The chapter when he said something like “… and then we all die”. It just get to me, because that is just so true. When we die, all of the things about the future that we constantly think about, won’t even matter. And the most important thing is, we can die anytime, so why waste our time thinking about the future?

This is the most random and unstructured blog post I have ever written but I’m just going to write it, and be honestly real for once. I have always been a very ambitious person, since I was a little kid. I always think “what is next?”. Not to mention people-pressure, it’s hard when people keep asking the same thing over and over again. For once, I finally, can stop thinking about that. I no longer think about what is next, because I am happy with where I am right now. And when people ask me that question, I just smile and say “life is full of surprises, why try to ruin it?”. And I do believe in what I said. I have travelled, got a degree that I’m passionate about last year, got a job in a public sector (which what I always want to be involved in), finished my master’s degree this year, got my very first flat that I paid myself (yes I’m financially independent, so happy!), got my own website, live in a beautiful city, I have done ballet, piano, guitar, even drama class, I have performed in theater, involved in gymnastic, yoga, and others. I have accomplished many things in my life and I’m still 22, I guess I just want to let my self rest for once, and truly enjoy life without thinking what the future hold. I worked so hard this past few years, and I know that all that hard work bring me to where I am right now, where I am supposed to be. Of course I’m still excited to welcome the future, and plan for things, but not now. Because I know myself, and I believe in myself too, I know that eventually I will reach my end game, and you should believe in yourself too that eventually things will work out. The future will be a journey of ups and downs, but it will eventually lead you where you’re supposed to be, just as it leads you to where you are supposed to be right now. Because we are, exactly where we are supposed to be.

What you’re looking for is standing in front of you

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21 Things I Learnt in 21 years

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“Life is about growth”

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